Accused of feminism
Mar. 19th, 2013 10:14 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
lonemagpieI'd been thinking over the past week about making a post about this, as, over time, I've had several different people call me "the most feminist man I know." Feminist? Me? I wondered.
I certainly wouldn't call myself that. No, I mean, quite aside from being a man (really, I have a beard and penis and everything), there are so many definitions and interpretations of that word. And, in general, any social or political viewpoint word ending in an "ism" usually is referring to a bad thing, rife with the opportunity for turning into viciousness.
But...
But...
I've just fucking had it up to here with a patriarchal society and media. Really, and it's not just the Oklahoma case this week, or the shit in India, etc. It's not just the assholes in geek and gaming culture who turned on the likes of Anita Sarkeesian. It's... all of it.
The whole culture from business to government to media to education that all has this slight bias that females are somehow less. Less valuable, less important, less worthy... Fuck right off. The genders may be different (very slightly), but neither is more or less than the other. They're both fucking human. Or, as I find myself thinking every time I go in the supermarket, "stupid apes."
No, I'm not into all that stuff about "gender parity" because gender shouldn't matter. I just want to see guys - and yes, it's pretty much always guys, men, males - treat the girls and women like, well normal fucking people. As good as they treat themselves, in fact.
Come on, it's not fucking rocket science.
And, here's another thing: That patriachal shit is bad for us guys too. It's less obvious. but we're getting programmed to see women that way. it's not something that we're naturally born with - there are people doing it, usually to make money out of us, as well to keep half the damn species down. (oh, and that part doesn't just apply to women, but minorities too. Just the other day I found myself replying to a comment elsewhere about there being noises of sexual appreciation over an actor in a film that Lesley and I watched, to point out that I wasn't the one fancying him. Why did I even have to say that? Cos that's the subliminal programming in a heterocentral partiarchy.)
Don't take that crap. Don't be a fucking programmed caveman - be cool and not an asshole. How hard is that? Not hard at all. If youre not part of the solution to this, you're definitely part of the fucking problem.
There shouldn't be a patriarchy - or a gynarchy, or an oligarchy, or any of that. Know what it should be? The Greek word would be Isoarchy, or Isosarchy - rule of equals.
I'd call it simply treating women as equals. And everybody else, for that matter.
If that's the sort of thing you call feminist then I guess you can call me that. If not, then at least remember the Two commandments: 1) Be cool to everybody, 2) Don't be a fucking asshole.
I certainly wouldn't call myself that. No, I mean, quite aside from being a man (really, I have a beard and penis and everything), there are so many definitions and interpretations of that word. And, in general, any social or political viewpoint word ending in an "ism" usually is referring to a bad thing, rife with the opportunity for turning into viciousness.
But...
But...
I've just fucking had it up to here with a patriarchal society and media. Really, and it's not just the Oklahoma case this week, or the shit in India, etc. It's not just the assholes in geek and gaming culture who turned on the likes of Anita Sarkeesian. It's... all of it.
The whole culture from business to government to media to education that all has this slight bias that females are somehow less. Less valuable, less important, less worthy... Fuck right off. The genders may be different (very slightly), but neither is more or less than the other. They're both fucking human. Or, as I find myself thinking every time I go in the supermarket, "stupid apes."
No, I'm not into all that stuff about "gender parity" because gender shouldn't matter. I just want to see guys - and yes, it's pretty much always guys, men, males - treat the girls and women like, well normal fucking people. As good as they treat themselves, in fact.
Come on, it's not fucking rocket science.
And, here's another thing: That patriachal shit is bad for us guys too. It's less obvious. but we're getting programmed to see women that way. it's not something that we're naturally born with - there are people doing it, usually to make money out of us, as well to keep half the damn species down. (oh, and that part doesn't just apply to women, but minorities too. Just the other day I found myself replying to a comment elsewhere about there being noises of sexual appreciation over an actor in a film that Lesley and I watched, to point out that I wasn't the one fancying him. Why did I even have to say that? Cos that's the subliminal programming in a heterocentral partiarchy.)
Don't take that crap. Don't be a fucking programmed caveman - be cool and not an asshole. How hard is that? Not hard at all. If youre not part of the solution to this, you're definitely part of the fucking problem.
There shouldn't be a patriarchy - or a gynarchy, or an oligarchy, or any of that. Know what it should be? The Greek word would be Isoarchy, or Isosarchy - rule of equals.
I'd call it simply treating women as equals. And everybody else, for that matter.
If that's the sort of thing you call feminist then I guess you can call me that. If not, then at least remember the Two commandments: 1) Be cool to everybody, 2) Don't be a fucking asshole.
